More than 1 in 3 relationships may end in divorce nowadays, and with the increasing popularity of internet dating it’s possible to shop for our partners online in the same way as we order groceries or browse for a new outfit. In our disposable 21st century world, is it even more important to make a fuss of special occasions like Valentine’s Day and anniversaries if we want to keep the romance in our relationships alive?
As journalist Lucy Beresford reminds us in a recent article about getting your relationship back on track, ‘love isn’t just something we “fall” into and stay in permanently’. We know that relationships have to be worked at and sustained in the same way that we would nurture any living thing. If you don’t pay attention to your relationship, just as if you fail to take care of a house plant, it won’t be able to survive indefinitely.
While celebrating anniversaries and Valentine’s is not necessarily the hallmark of a perfect relationship, how we approach special occasions can reveal a lot about the romance in question. Arguably, Valentine’s Day is more important to women than their male partners. Psychologist Dr Neil Clark Warren, the founder of dating website eHarmony, says this is down to men’s and women’s differing perspectives on what makes them feel good.
For women, when their partner remembers an anniversary or special occasion, it’s a sign they’re being kept in mind and cared about. For men, celebrating these occasions doesn’t seem so important as an indicator of their partner’s love. And for either gender, what really counts is not extravagant demonstrations, but the thought that goes into a gift or anniversary treat.
Buying Valentine’s Day presents and taking your partner out to celebrate are not crucial for keeping romance alive, but by marking occasions in this way you can show your partner how much he or she means to you. It’s a good way to demonstrate that you don’t take them for granted. In a long-term relationship, once your lives have settled into a routine, things can start to seem ordinary and mundane, and either partner can easily start to feel that they are just part of the furniture.
This is really the key to why celebrating special occasions can help to keep the romance alive in a relationship. So if you want to let your partner know that they are still the most amazing thing in your life – even after many years together – make sure you mark these occasions in some way. Don’t let Valentine’s Day pass by without doing something to show your partner you still care. It’s little things like this that can make all the difference in a long-term relationship.
This is a guest post by Elly, who has a passion for writing about Fashion, Beauty & Lifestyle across the world. She also tweets regularly on the latest updates in the fashion and retail industry, which can be found here (@Russell_Elly).